What is about wedddings that makes women go home and think? Is it the sacrificing vows or the love that seems under dying and true in the church and the reception? Or could it possibly be the possibilty that some of us might never get married or our first three marriages might end in divorce?
Weddings are scary! Beautiful but scary. There is just something about being the only single person in the church watching other couples say, "Look honey we should have that at ours." I look at them there is no way that will ever work (the marriage not the wedding). But I shouldnt, I havent even got the partner part under the wing- which is the most important thing as most women forget.
I think it is the idea of spending your life with someone else that makes most of us want to run- the fact that if it doesn't work out we will have to remenber it for the rest of our lives. It is the idea of sharing everything with one person and seeing this person every day of you life. How many people can say their parents are happily married?
But as scary as it is we all take the leap at some time, so here is your wedding thought (It has always been my inspiration when in times of doubt about marriage)
"Marriages don't fail- people fail. They fail to realise they have to complete themselves before they can do it for another person"- Unknown author
The older generation can teach us a thing or two about respect for your partner and yourself and how to be happily married for 50 even 60 years! I think the reason most marriages fail is because people have become selfish and only think of themselves and also because they aren't willing to work through issues. Giving up is so much easier than sticking it out.
ReplyDeleteMarriage is indeed taking a leap of faith, in most cases at a very young age - for better or worse.
ReplyDeleteOn a personal level, your life partner is somewhere out there. You will instinctively know when you have met Mr Right - and the time will be right too.