Being a young lady in 2011

I recently read a mail, about the next survivor challenge, which describes what an average man, with children has to do to receive the title of being a mother. This really made me think about what us as ladies have to do to keep all the balls in the air.

Starting in the morning, we have to pick out an outfit that is suitable for work. It has to be professional, and not flashy- so we can be taken seriously. We have to keep our heels on the entire day and make sure our panty hose doesn’t snag on anything. Also we have to keep lipstick on the lips and off the teeth.

Now we get to the office. We have to resolve work disputes, get all our work done and remain lady like and polite no matter how much your co-workers may piss you off. And then my personal favourite, we have to think of things that everyone else will forget- toilet paper for the office and thank you cards are the thorns in my stilettos.

And once we get home the real jobs start. Kids or no kids, married or single there are some things that we all have to do: Keep the house clean, keep your cupboard organised, feed all animals, water the plants, keep a system of all accounts that need to be paid, make sure there is something more than cheese in the fridge, change light bulbs, kill spiders and make sure that you have at least one cocktail dress that is not in the washing machine.

Although my list has over a hundred of these things, my fellow bloggers may not appreciate a 600 word piece. So the next time you feel guilty for buying another pair of shoes or taking a bubble bath- don’t! You deserve every moment of pampering yourself before you have to do the other 100 things in your day.

It is a poor idea to lie to yourself

So on a scale of one to ten I would say the average person lies to himself/herself about ten times a day. Yes keep telling yourself you don't have to lose weight, keep telling yourself that the fears you held as a child about someone leaving you is not there. Keep lying...

And the fact that we believe that our lies will never catch us up is the biggest lie we tell ourselves. Because it will and you will have someone like me breathing those dreaded words in your ear "I told you so."

At the end of the day no matter who you lose, you will always be stuck with yourself. And if you think of it in that way, would you lie to someone you will have to face everyday of your life?

To be happy with yourself you need to be true to yourself. Even if the truth is not pretty it is something you need to tell yourself. Lying to yourself is the worse idea I have ever heard of.

In my opinion lie to the world, they may not care to enough to want to know the truth but be honest with yourself. Break it down and be realistic. Unless you want to end up being one of those people that feel completely alone in a crowded room, tell yourself the truth.

Trevor Noah does nothing for Cell C!

Trevor Noah, the new face of Cell C, has in my opinion done nothing to improve any areas of the cellular network, now in black and white, Cell C. Aside from making funny advertisements for the network, this man does nothing except add to the frustration of their customers. Any person that deals with Cell C will know this. Cell C has employed him to work on problem areas, such as customer relations and experience- this has not happened. Last month, without warning, Cell C suspended my casual chat 100 account, leaving me, a young entrepreneur at the mercy of please call me's and an emergency line. Upon trying to contact them I was placed on hold, on their customer care line for longer than 4o minutes (on two occasions). When this was a dead end I sent a formal complaint to telltrevor.co.za and wrote on Trevor's face book wall. A lot of good that did me- no response. I eventually went to the Cell C store in Canal Walk, where an employee informed me that she hates her job, as people are always coming in with problems made by the network, and they as the staff can't assist with. When I protested that I would not leave the store until my problem was solved, suddenly help could be arranged. And then to show they really care about me, Cell C sent me an sms to tell me they are looking at my problem, more than a week after I had fixed it myself. I am counting the months till the end of my contract and I would hit any person over the head, that even consisders doing business with them. In my words to Trevor on face book: "Maybe I made the mistake thinking Cell C is a business, when you are just a bunch of unorganised, unprofessional individuals" Watch this space to see what happens this month....

The sound of one hand clapping

The sound of one hand clapping...in my opinion it is a good thing. Although most people have nightmares about saying something and only having just one person applaud them, I think it is a step in the right direction. It means that somewhere, one single person has made the decision to clap no matter who claps with them, and more importantly who doesn't. We are living in an age, where being an individual, is something everyone strives for. Yet so many people are scared to take that jump and do something on their own. So although a single hand clap is not the climax any speaker would hope for, it is the beginning of something worth so much more. So if you do find something worth putting your hands together for, go for it! And if you can only find one hand available beat against the nearest object and make some noise!

This is who I am- deal with it!

After 21 (almost 22) years of trying to make other people happy, I've made peace with who I am. This is me, love it or leave it...your choice. Just so that we are on the same page this is what you need to know about this Linti:

1. I am a control freak: I love to have control over most things in my life. Standing with my hands behind my back is one pose my body doesn't know.

This is something that may become a problem if it is not managed, but truth be told it is one of my strong characteristics. In certain areas of my life (eg work, wardrobe) it helps, but when it comes to people, it seems to just make things more complicated.

2. I am a feminist: Ask any man that has spent more than two hours in my company how I feel about women's rights and they will all give you the same answer: "Don't even bring it up around Menay." It is a losing battle and I try to help women as far as I can to realise their personal power, whether it is by taking them to the traffic department to make an appointment for their driver's license, or downloading forms to have a bank account for that lady. I believe that you should never limit your own independence.

3. I am a clean freak: Often referred to as Monk, I am the person that makes sure their are coasters on even the outside table. I clean when I am stressed and immediately I start feeling better (note how this ties in with the control freak part).

4. And last but not least I love living my life! I love the small things that make us happy, as well as the bigger picture that we all work towards. I love sunset drives on the beach and morning cigarattes with the boss. We don't always know how long the ride of life will be, so why not live every moment like you won't have another one.